by islander on December 16, 2022 8:44 am
”Hm. Not sure that's the right word, islander.” ~ Donna
The typical goal of the gaslighter is not just manipulation, but power and control .
The dictionary definition you quoted says “manipulate (someone) using psychological methods into questioning their own sanity or powers of reasoning.” but it doesn’t explain what those psychological methods are or how the gaslighter uses those psychological methods.
If a gaslighter’s intended victim understands what the gaslighter is trying to do, gaslighting won’t work on that person, which is why Hate’s attempts at gaslighting don’t work on anyone here. Pondy fights right back and straight forwardly calls him out on it.
Some of the methods gaslighters use are, Lying. According to psychologists, gaslighters are often habitual and pathological liars with narcissistic tendencies. Blame shifting. For example, gaslighters will lie to someone or insult the person and then try to blame that person for being offended or feeling insulted, as in the example of my ex-buddy insulting his wife. His blame shifting was his attempt to convince her that she herself is to blame for thinking that he insulted her. If he can make her question her own sense of humor, then what she feels is her own fault not his. If he’s successful he can and usually does insult at will and she cannot defend herself. They are no longer married by the way. 👍
by HatetheSwamp on December 16, 2022 8:53 am
Words mean stuff.
Which are you not? Woke? Or, an, uh, objectivity-ist?